My purpose in writing this article to explain how and why this could be true and by doing so create a bridge for those still trying to embrace this higher dimensional concept in order to complete emotional clearing, achieve inner peace, create greater prosperity and finally, achieve ascension. Letís begin by comparing descriptions of the Inner Child and the Ego.
The Inner Child is that part of us that is ultimately alive, free, energetic, creative and fulfilled. Dr. James Whitfield, as well as other therapists, says that our Inner Child is our real self and that it can be likened to a small child. Little children around the age of 2 or 3 are very much alive, energetic, creative, fulfilled and communicative. They have no problems speaking their minds and speaking up to get their needs met. How many times have you been embarrassed by the frank observation of a three-year old? After much research and observation I agree that this is an accurate description of the Inner Child. How about you?
The Ego is the part of us that is self-centered, irrational and fearful. Most of us, including myself, have been taught that the Ego is the part of us that we need to either destroy or at least subdue and tame. Websterís Dictionary describes the Ego as ďthe whole person, the self or the personal identity.Ē Some also call it the False Self or the Mask. Once again we see a part of ourselves described as the Self, this time it is the Ego. So we see that based on the descriptions, the Inner Child and the Ego have one thing in common; they are both part of the Self, the whole person that is you, just in different ways. Would you be open to the idea that, based on these descriptions, there is a possibility that they could be the same entity? You donít have to decide just yet. Letís look for more clues.
Now letís look at the characteristics normally attributed to the Inner Child and the Ego. The Inner Child among other things is considered to be:
The Ego among other things is considered to be:
As we view the list it is not difficult to see that the Ego exhibits the negative or fear-based traits of the Inner Child. Where the Inner Child is child-like in its thinking and behavior (being like a small innocent child), the Ego is adult-like in its behavior, (being like an adult) exhibiting traits normally associated with people who are older, having had much more experience with the world. We label this egotistical behavior, in other words an adult acting childish out of some form of weakness, fear or insecurity. The Ego is a little, old person. So when it gets upset over unfulfilled expectations, it acts childish not child-like. Child-like is innocent and open and honest. Childish is silly or trifling. There is a difference. Does this make sense?
The Inner Child focuses on being itself, joyfully expressing its wants and desires without feeling the need to coerce or manipulate to get its needs met. Because it loves itself, it does not harbor the idea that others do not love it too. The Inner Child lives for itself fully believing that everyone accepts it for who and what it is.
The Ego on the other hand, is focused on survival. In other words, the Ego spends its time trying to be what it believes others want it to be in order to be loved and accepted because love and acceptance=survival. The Ego lives with the constant fear of rejection where the Inner Child does not. I will explain why in just a moment.
As I look at these two, I canít help but suspect that the Ego could be the Inner Child out of balanceóthe Ego is fear based, the Inner child is love based. If this is true, then one could conclude that the Ego is the dark side of the Inner Child.
Back to our connections based on characteristics, would it be safe to hypothesize that there is a second connection between the Ego and the Inner Child since one exhibits the flip side of the otherís traits? I think there could be, how about you?
How does the Inner child become unbalanced creating a dark side? My belief is that the imbalances are created through conditioning from our family and society. I believe the imbalances occur when we are taught to believe things that run counter to our natural instincts, the instincts of a small child.
As we grow from infancy to childhood and into adulthood we are continuously indoctrinated with the ideals and beliefs of our parents, extended family members, schools, churches and society at large. These beliefs contain messages about what is acceptable to do, say, feel and express and what is not. As we experience the pain of rejection, blame, shame and guilt created by going outside the established bounds of what is acceptable, we quickly learn to limit our expression in order to avoid that pain. As we do this we communicate messages to our Inner Child regarding what it is allowed to express and where the limits are.
In addition, these messages contain our decisions as to what level of pain we wish to experience based on expression. The Inner Child hears these messages and wanting to keep our love and acceptance obediently suppresses any feelings that it has been told we donít want to feel. But when someone triggers that suppressed pain, we feel it and then blame our Inner Child through negative self-talk. This negative talk makes our Inner Child feel blamed, rejected and abandoned. So, out of the desire to stay alive, it becomes more creative in anticipating and avoiding or blocking opportunities that can trigger that pain thus creating a fear-based side to handle this need. We call it the Ego.
As we grow and experience greater levels of pain we demand that the Ego suppress more and more of that pain. When it fails, we reject it again and again. By the time we are adults that Ego has learned to be very wily, powerful and manipulative, acquiring a whole host of tools to keep that pain down. This includes addictions of all sorts with the ultimate tool being depression, which to the emotional body is the equivalent of morphine.
Now that we see that there are two very logical connections between these two parts of us along with a good basis for believing they could just be the two different sides of the same entity, lets look at how the higher realms view them.
It is my understanding that in the higher dimensions, the Inner Child and the Ego are seen as the same entity. Because earth is a place where polarity exists, they acknowledge that that polarity extends to both our inner world and our outer world, thus it would only make sense that the Self has both a Light and Dark side or positive and negative side. To have only a Dark or a Light side would not serve our interests because we would not be able to fully experience all there is to know about polarity or be able to find the balance between the two.
Those in the higher dimensions also understand that it is through our experience being taught to separate the Inner Child and the Ego, experiencing the pain of trying to live that way, and then searching for a solution to the pain that we really learn about polarity. In addition, it is not until we figure out that keeping the Inner Child and the Ego separate only causes more frustration, defeating our attempts at self-love and empowerment. Only then are we finally able to integrate them thus finding that which we sought in their separateness.
Those in the higher realms know that we need a guidance system. When a soul incarnates into physical form, they must have some sort of guidance system to guide them through the incarnation following their Life Blueprint. The Life Blueprint is the map we create in the Interlife (life between lives) that contains all the major events and lessons we intend to learn in this incarnation along with the contracts with those individuals who will play out roles created for the contracts with us.
The Soul is the part of us that oversees the Life Blueprint. It can do this because it exists in the higher realms along with our guides. It remains connected to us ethereally through the heart chakra. The other two parts of us incarnate into physical form. They are the Inner Child/Ego and the conscious you, the one reading this article, that I call the Self in order to differentiate it from the Inner Child and the Soul. You, the Self are the one in the driverís seat making choices between following the Soul or the Ego. The Ego/Inner Child is the part of you that identifies itself as the physical body with the express purpose of keeping You, the Self safe in that body to complete the incarnation. Through the work of this trinity, you complete your incarnation, learning your lessons and obtaining soul growth, which is the primary reason for incarnating.
This is a somewhat complex question and must be answered on two levels. From the level of those in charge of this planet, they benefit from your choice to view your Inner Child as separate from your Ego because as long as you keep them separate you will not be able to clear the emotional blocks that keep you from taking the steps that will lead to self-empowerment, self-love and ultimately ascension.
Now you might ask, ďWhy would keeping them separate cause me not to achieve self-love and empowerment and ascend?Ē The reason is that as long as you are loving the one but despising and rejecting the other you will never experience total self-love or empowerment because you are only loving part of yourself, not all of yourself. And like we have already seen, the Ego is still part of you, part of your Self.
The powers that be are gambling on the fact that you will not figure this out and as long as that continues they know you will continue to look outside yourself for love and validation and that is where they can influence and control youÖas they already have. Aaahhh! Now do you see? I can see the light bulbs going on in your minds as I write this! Yeah for you!
Now letís look at the other level. Who else would benefit from keeping them separate? You would benefit. Why? Because only by experiencing the pain of seeing them as separate would you be willing to commit to experience them as one and this is called soul growth. So you would benefit because it enables you to obtain soul growth.
Those in the higher dimensions realize that at some point early in your life you need to develop street smarts and learn to protect yourself. The Inner Child being child-like and innocent cannot do this but as it journeys through the incarnation experiencing pain, it quickly learns what to do to keep the body safe. This process is valuable in that it enables us to survive. Without it, we would not live long enough to learn anything because through our innocence and lack of fear we would run out into the street and get run over by a car, just like a 1-year old child would because it does not yet know fear.
So when the Inner Child uses fear as a tool to keep us safe and we donít understand that this is what is occurring, we become fearful and call it Ego. Yes, there are times when the Inner Child will use fear to block us if it feels that we are going to bring harm to our bodies, but it will only do so if it feels there is no other way. And as long as we are cut off from this dark side of our Inner Child, wanting to destroy or conquer it, the Inner Child will continue to distrust us. It will not believe us when we say that we love it because we have proven through our actions and our innocent ignorance that we only love the sweet side of it, not the side that is trying to protect us.
Without fear as a tool, the Inner Child would not be able to keep us safe and therefore, as I mentioned earlier, most of us would not live very long. And if we think that that is not true, consider how it would be able to do it otherwise when most of us donít spend even 5 minutes a day communicating with our Inner Child. Yes, we may spend a lot of time communing with our Soul or Higher Self, but how much time do we spend with our Inner child? How strong is that relationship? How open and clear the communication?
This relationship with the Inner Child, accepting its dark side (Ego) and loving it through the integration of its fears is what I have found to be the missing piece in Inner Child work and, thus, the missing piece in clearing emotional blocks and completing ascension.
When we begin to treat the Ego as the Inner Child in fear, we are able to make permanent changes in our behavior traits and thus, our relationships and life. The Ego is Inner Child expressing its fears. When someone is in fear, that is when they need us the most. When you and I are in fear, what do we want the most? We want people to love us, help us, nurture us and above all not reject us. If that is what we want, doesnít it stand to reason that our Inner Child would want the same? Going further, isnít it true that the way someone knows that we love them, really love them is to be there for them regardless of whether they are being good or bad? If this is the case, then doesnít it make sense that our Inner Child would want to know that he or she is loved regardless of whether they behave as good or bad? When your physical children behave negatively, donít you still love them? Then why should it be any different for our Inner Child? Do you see what I mean?
It is my understanding that love is a feeling that we express through our behavior, the behaviors of trust, acceptance, kindness and compassion. So to love the Inner Child/Ego and help it integrate its fears would be an expression of self-love in action, would it not? And donít we need to be able to love ourselves in order to ascend? I believe we do. So, to answer the question of why it is important to our spiritual growth to connect the Inner Child and Ego, it is because we need them both to ascend.
So are the Ego and the Inner Child the same entity or being? Yes, I believe they are. Is one the Dark side of the other? Yes, I believe so. Does understanding this concept and beginning live it affect our ability to clear emotional blocks, achieve inner peace and ascension? Yes, I believe it does. How about you?
The Nibiruan Council